A Little Rant About Social Media

TweetI have something to say about something that bugs me. I love social media. This is not news to anyone that knows me. I’m all about progression, I love technology and know the way the world is going in this regard and I find it exciting because the possibilities are endless.
Everyone uses social media for a different reason. Personally I like it to keep abreast of what’s going on in the world, and I use it to share what’s going on in my life. To show our life in pictures, to share little bits about my family, my friends, and little positive bits and pieces that I find. I also sometimes share the tough stuff as it happens. Sometimes I keep that to myself. I love to see what’s going on with my family and friends. I want to see the pics of your kids and marvel at how quickly they’re growing and how cute they are. I want to see where you’re going, and what you’re seeing and possibly offer words of support to you if you need them.
What bothers me is the dark side of social media. The empowerment that a keyboard gives people is not always positive. Being able to put something out there or say something to someone without actually having to see them or talk to them makes people say things that they would never actually say if they were looking you directly in the face.
Some people just use Facebook and Twitter to spread their drama around for everyone to see. To say things without really saying anything. To rant about things or people or situations while being vague and cryptic.
Sometimes people use it to air their political views and their beefs with what’s going on in the world and in ours and other governments.
Usually when I see a lot of this stuff online, just like when I see other things that don’t interest me, I just keep scrolling. I also assume that there are folks that scroll past my endless selfies and pics of my kid and my dog, and I’m okay with that too.  Sometimes though, people take it too far. And I’m not just talking about online bullying, which is a real problem in today’s society and I’m not downplaying it at all. I’m talking about a lesson that I learned in life very young: think before you speak. Don’t be insulting. Respect others. Don’t be mean.  If there is a chance that what you’re going to say may insult someone that really doesn’t deserve it, think again before you say it. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I’m not saying that there aren’t sometimes difficult things that need to be discussed. Horrible things going on in the world that need to be brought to light. Action that needs to be taken and our human voices should not be silenced. We need to talk about these things and bring about change. Think about these things and let them bring perspective about what is important, and what isn’t.

Everyone has a right to their opinion and the right to express it. I know that if someone doesn’t like it they can keep scrolling. And for the most part, my feeds are filled with love and light and kids and animals and Birthday wishes and vacation pics. But the next time you sit down at your keyboard or on your phone or tablet and prepare to put something out into the universe that you feel that you absolutely have to say, ask yourself: why am I saying this? To make myself feel better? Is there someone out there that’s going to read this that is going to be hurt by my words? If this person were standing in front of me, would I say these words to their face? If you wouldn’t, there’s probably a reason for that.
There is too much devastation and hate and negativity in the world. When given the choice to add to it or not, please choose not.

It’s Hot People! Take your kids out of the car!

hot-sunIt boggles my mind how many reports I have seen of people leaving their kids (and animals for that matter) in their cars in this hot weather we’re having.

With all the media attention this has been getting, I am amazed that people would leave a child unattended in a car at all, for any length of time, let alone in this intense heat.  Children are dying.  Isn’t that enough to say:  “wake up sweetie, you’re coming in the store with me.”

I came across this video in my facebook feed.  I know it’s a simulation, but it brought me to tears.  It brought me to tears because this kind of thing is happening all the time!  Children are being injured, and dying all the time, and it is absolutely 100% preventable.

Please – take a few minutes and watch this video.  Please – understand that this could happen to you.  With all the abductions happening, it is unsafe to leave a child alone in any weather.  Please be responsible, please, please – do what you’re supposed to do.  You have had this child, or you are responsible for this child.  Do what you need to do to protect it.  Please.  And if you happen to be walking past a vehicle with an unattended child in it – get help.  Those few minutes could end up saving a life.


Gone Girl – Book Review (maybe some slight spoilers)

Gone GirlI have been picking up and putting down Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn for months now every time I go into the bookstore.  It was really one of those books that I wanted to read, but I’ve been putting off buying it until it comes out in paperback.  I didn’t know much about it, except that it was a mystery.  Also that it was very popular and I was sure I wanted to read it.

I was browsing through the selections available through my library on my iPad’s handy dandy Overdrive app, and saw that it was there.  It also showed that the hold list was 163 people long.  So just for fun, I clicked on it and became 164.  Sure enough, about a week or so ago, I got an e-mail that I could “check out” my selection.  So I got clicking and I got reading.

This book is a mystery.  I’ll start off by saying that I thought it was really good.  The story is about Nick, who comes home on his 5th wedding anniversary to find his wife Amy missing, and the living room looking like there had been foul play.  It definitely looked like Amy was taken from the house unexpectedly, between the state of the living room and the iron being left on, etc.

The police are called, and it of course doesn’t take long for the case to become that of national headlines, and for Nick to become the prime suspect.  The book switches back and forth between Nick’s point of view and diary entries that were written by Amy – 7 years worth of diary entries, all leading up to the point where she was gone from the house.

This book is somewhat of a roller coaster.  It leads you to believe several things.  At the beginning of the book when Nick got home and found his wife gone, I thought based on his reaction that there was no way he could have had anything to do with her disappearance.  But then reading Amy’s diary entries, I start to wonder.  It is obvious that their marriage was far from perfect, and that both of these people were very odd.  Something was not quite right about either of them.

This book had me hooked.  I was reading  and reading, waiting to find out what the hell happened, and then when I finally figured out what had happened, I kept reading to find out what the hell was going to happen next.  The power in the book shifted so many times, I literally had no idea how it would ultimately turn out.

Then it ended.

If I ended my blog post right now, that would be a small indication of how I felt when I realized that this book was done.  There was no closure, no explanation, nothing.  I know that this might be considered a cliffhanger, but I considered myself slightly cheated.  I felt like I had been running through this forest, over and under branches, through the mud, swinging on vines, desperate to get through to the other side.  Then about 50 feet from where the forest ended, I tripped over a bag of potatoes that somebody had left there, and fell.  And then I stayed there for all eternity.  I don’t get up, I don’t know if I broke anything, I don’t get to leave the forest, I don’t find out if there’s civilization on the other side.  Just laying there, facedown in the mud.  Forever.  Slightly dramatic I know, but COME ON!

I suppose that my dramatic reaction is saying something.  I was invested enough in this story to want to know what happened to the characters.  I wanted to see people get what they deserved.  I wanted questions answered.

Maybe I’ll write some fan fiction some day and tie up all the loose ends.

Overall, this book was a solid 4 stars.  Maybe 5.  Because of the ending, I made it a 3 on Goodreads.

Have you read Gone Girl?  Did you like it? Hate it?  Please feel free to comment below.  Thanks for reading.

Sometimes I Just Wanna Hang Out With Me

Just my own tootsies in the sand

What I'm about to say might make me sound like a horrible person. It may, but it's the truth, so here goes….

Sometimes, I just wanna be alone.

I have a wonderful life. I'm fortunate to have an amazing husband, a healthy, smart, active 4 year old son, phenomenal parents and extended family, and some of the worlds best friends. I have a job that isn't exactly my dream, but I enjoy it, I know it well, and it's close to home, which allows me to spend more time with my family. My bosses have been good to me, and in return, I try to give everything I can.

I know that my life could be a million times worse. Just take any of the things that I mentioned above and reverse it. So what the hell have I got to complain about? In reality, nothing.

Except one little thing…and here is where I become a horrible, selfish person.

Sometimes, I just wish that I had a few hours all to myself, where I can do what I want, and not be responsible for anything. To sit and read my book without having to yell at my kid to leave the dog alone. To not hear: “Mommy, I need _________.” To not have to jump up to let the dog out because she's barking at the door to go out or come in. To sit and read my book, or blog on my iPad without my husband choosing that exact moment to tell me what happened in his day or ask me a million questions about mine. Don't get me wrong, I know how incredibly lucky I am to have these things. To have a wonderful child, and a husband who wants to share his day with me and hear about mine. I get that. I really do.

I just want a few hours. In bed, by a pool, on a beach, in a park, wherever. I have an active social life. I get out. I spend time with my friends, I have a book club meeting once a month. But during these times I'm with people. The thing I'm craving is ALONE time. Just to be me, be with me, do me things. Then, after those few hours are over, I want life to go back to exactly the way it is now. I'm cool with that. I'm more than cool with that. I want my life to stay as it is, I just need a little bit of solitude every so often.

That's it. Not bad, all things considered, if that's my biggest complaint. I think, talking to other women, that I'm not the only one who has these feelings. I imagine that there are men out there that feel the same way as well. I'm pretty sure that some time alone with me will make me a better me, a better Mommy, a better wife, a better friend.

I'll test that theory and get back to you. 🙂


Attitude – A Rant. You’ve been warned.

Just a bunch of cry babies!

Every now and then a girl just has to get things off her chest.  Some cry about it, some scream about it.  I’m gonna blog about it.

I honestly think that the biggest problem that plagues society today is people and their bad attitudes.  Some people honestly wouldn’t know a positive comment if someone came along and hit them over the head with one.  I know I wrote in one of my previous blog entries that there are some people that you just can’t please, and you just have to move on and not let them bother you.

Well heck.  Today, they are bothering me!  Some people are just so negative, so sour, so argumentative and confrontational, it makes me want to dump a bucket of ice water on their heads.  They are nasty, nasty NASTY!

PEOPLE!  Lighten up a bit!  I know that sometimes life isn’t fair.  Sometimes people mistreat you, sometimes the crap just keeps piling up.  But having a bad attitude about the whole thing, dropping f-bombs left, right and center may make you feel better about things, but trust me, it’s driving everyone else around you CRAZY!

Your negative attitude is only bringing down the people around you.  It’s not doing you any good.  You may think that it feels good to complain about things and make your beefs known.  All you are doing is feeding into your own anger and keeping it alive.  Just think.  Just think of how much better your life could be if whenever something happens that normally would send you into orbit, you just said “Nope.  I’m not going to let it get the better of me.  I’m not going to let something that is out of my control get me down in the dumps.”  I know that every now and then it does get so bad that you have to let it out.  That’s what I’m doing right now.  Normally I can turn the other cheek and ignore the negativity.  Today, it just annoyed me to the point where I have to let it out.  That happens.  But it’s almost like the boy who cried wolf.  If all people hear from you is complaining, it quickly becomes white noise and has no meaning.  If you are generally a positive person and don’t complain much, looking at life like it is a bowl of cherries and spitting the pits out and forgetting about them – then when you do have a complaint to make, and it’s made in the right way – people are much more likely to listen and do something to help you.

So buck up Buttercup!  Smile a bit.  Don’t let things get to you and worry you so much.  Your friends will thank you, your family will thank you, your co-workers will thank you.  Your doctor will thank you too – you’ll live longer!